While you and your ex still have your children’s best interests in mind, agreeing on coordinating their care as co-parents may come with challenges. Often, both parents need to find areas where they are willing to compromise so that they can have peace in their relationships with their children.
Getting to a middle ground can come with challenges. Since co-parenting is new territory, it can be difficult to know when to compromise and when to stand your ground.
Here are a few suggestions for making the transition to being co-parents.
Clear communication for everyone
One area where most co-parents struggle is communication. There is a delicate balance between irritating overcommunication and both parents being in the dark about their children.
As you transition into being co-parents, you should talk about subjects where you always want communication right away and matters that can wait. When you are clear about your boundaries and expectations, it is easier for both parents to fulfill their needs.
As the children grow up, you should also teach them to have good communication skills with you and their other parent. Demonstrating solid communication skills and having clear expectations about communication can help your child know what you want them to do when they encounter a new situation.
Decide to work together
Not all co-parents are great at collaborating. However, collaboration is a skill you both can decide that you want to work on for the sake of your children.
When it is time to make plans or discuss parenting strategies, it may help to think of your ex as your parenting partner rather than an adversary. Shifting your mindset can be essential to making it through these challenging discussions.